Umm al-Banin, an example for compassion, respect and devotion
Over the course of history, some women have stood as a shinning rod for courage, loyalty and compassion. Umm al-Banin was one of these women or mothers.
Umm al-Banin, the second wife of the commander of the faithful, Imam Ali Bin Abi Taleb. When his wife, Sayeda Fatima al Zahraa died at a young age, Imam Ali married Umm al-Banin, and she provided exemplary care for his children, including Imam Hassan and Imam Hussein.
Since her name was Fatima as well, she asked Imam Ali not to call her by her name when Imam Hassan and Imam Hussein were around, fearing it would remind them of their mother.
She was called Umm al-Banin, or the mother of the boys because she had four boys, all of whom died fighting with Imam Hussein in Karbala.
Umm al-Banin had a great devotion to Imam Hassan and Imam Hussein, and during the battle of Karbala, she would seek information about Imam Hussein before asking about her boys. it is also known that after the martyrdom of Imam Hussein, Umm established what is now known as Majalis Azzaa, the commemoration of Imam Hussein, keeping his message alive.
Courtesy of the Al-Islam.org site:
Umm-ul-Banin is the glorious mother of al-’Abbas. Her name was Fatima, daughter of Hizam. Historians have referred to her name among the names of eleven mothers each of whom were known for their glory, honor, and good reputation.1 Her father too was one of the most celebrated personalities of the Arabs and was the chief of his people.
Historians have also mentioned many names of this great lady’s ancestors that were well known for their horsemanship, heroism, and courage.2
In conclusion, Umm-ul-Banin belonged to one of the most celebrated families in fields of honor, open-handedness, nobility, courage, and bravery.
When Imam ‘Ali lost his wife Fatima, the daughter of Prophet Muhammad (S), he summoned his brother ‘Aqil who was a well- known genealogist to ask him to search for a lady who is a descendant of heroes would give birth to a courageous, immaculate hero whose mission would be to support his brother al-Husayn (S) in the field of Karbala.3
Without hesitation, ‘Aqil advised his brother to propose to Umm-ul-Banin – from the tribe of Kelab because her fathers and people had been the foremost among others in fields of heroism and courage. Agreeing to his advice, Imam ‘Ali asked his brother ‘Aqil to go to that lady’s father and ask her hand for him.
As soon as ‘Aqil mentioned the matter with him, Aamir – Umm-ul-Banin’s father – welcomed and responded to it with pride.
Some historians4 have confirmed that Imam ‘Ali married Umm-ul-Banin after the death of his first wife Fatima the veracious (a). Others5 have recorded that Imam ‘Ali had married Imama, daughter of Zaynab daughter of the Prophet, before Umm-ul-Banin.
Lady Umm-ul-Banin took care of al-Hasan and al-Husayn so remarkably well that she had asked her husband not to call her with her name Fatima so that this name would not remind these two boys of their mother. They, however, felt the extreme kindness and sympathy of this lady who could fill a part of the great loss of their own mother whose demise had left a deep sadness in their minds.
Emotionally, Umm-ul-Banin had a great love for al-Hasan and al- Husayn because of their perfection and unique morality. She, in fact, loved them more than her own children. She also preferred them to her sons in taking care and responsibility.
Except for this great lady, history has never seen a fellow wife act so sincerely with her stepsons. This is because this perfect lady believed that it was her religious duty to take care of the two Imams the love for who is imposed by God and revealed in the Qur’an:
Say, ‘I do not ask you for any payment for my preaching to you except (your) love of (my near) relatives’6.
In the Sight of the Ahlul Bayt
Umm-ul-Banin had full knowledge of the actual standings and heavenly ranks of the Ahlul Bayt, therefore, she performed her duty towards them so perfectly. Historians have recorded that when she was carried to her husband’s house, al-Hasan and al- Husayn were sick. As soon as she noticed this, she willingly went on caressing them, using the nicest language. From that time onwards, she went on treating them very kindly. For this reason, she occupies a great position in the eyes of the Ahlul Bayt who had immense regard for her, especially because of her unique bearing in loyalty towards Imam al-Husayn (a).
As soon as she was back home after the tragedy of Karbala – Zaynab, daughter of Imam ‘Ali, visited Umm-ul-Banin for condoling her for the martyrdom of her four sons. Moreover, Zaynab used to visit her on the Eids.7
Umm-ul-Banin gave birth to four sons: al-’Abbas, Abdullah, Ja’far, and Uthman. After the death of Imam ‘Ali, she did not marry again until she died.
In the Sight of Muslims
As for the Ahlul Bayt, this lady also occupies a great position in the sights of Muslims.
Many believe that she has a great position in the sight of God who will surely respond to any request that is presented through the intercession of her great position. It is natural that such a great lady occupies a great position in the sight of God because she sacrificed her four sons for His sake.